Imagine: you have the rule of not giving candy before a meal, but then your child gets candy before a meal from their grandparents or at school. How do you deal with this? Are you not the one who should care for your child first of all? The one who knows what is best? It is not always easy to set boundaries for children, and to have this same set of boundaries in all contexts of the child. That is why it is important that you work together with others so that they also use these same rules.

Setting boundaries? Cooperation?

To bring up a child, you used to need a whole village in the past. If something went wrong or the child was mischievous, then he/she was reprimanded by the person who saw it. This has all changed now. The parents have the final say over the child and are responsible for the upbringing of the child. But what if you, as parents, want to set certain boundaries for your child, but the school or others see this differently? The best way of dealing with this is through working together to some extent. This does not mean that your boundaries are not to be respected. Know that the other people, such as grandparents or teachers, want the best for the child. It therefore is useful to, together with them, look for a way to set boundaries which you want to have for your child, and to have these boundaries persist in all surroundings of the child.

Setting boundaries? The know-how.

To put this into work, a lot of communication is needed. 15 Minutes 4 Me developed an online self-help program which can help you in finding your focus, and eliminating your stress, so that your communication can be improved. Learn how to clearly put your opinion forward and set your boundaries in an assertive way.

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